The King's Musings
Random Thoughts, Observations and Commentary.
Saturday, January 20, 2024
Adventures in Online Dating: North State Ghosts
Wednesday, November 22, 2023
Giving Thanks 2023
Sunday, July 16, 2023
4 Months Later
Tuesday, December 6, 2022
Blast from the Past
Alright, this one's an odd one that I brought back a flood of memories and I'm trying to figure out... well, no, I'm positive I figured out the why. Allow me to address.
Several, SEVERAL years back, this was during Mad T's run at California Adventure to give you a timeframe. I'm just really hazy on the EXACT date/year. I want to say this was 2012 because it happened to fall on Christmas night. What was I doing at Disneyland/DCA by myself on Christmas night? Well, if it was 2012, then some of you might recall that was the year we lost dad. And with his birthday falling on Christmas Day, I had already spent the night before and most of the day at my sister's. But I didn't want to be by myself at home. So I wandered over to Disneyland in the biting cold, over to the Mad T Party area, despite knowing there wasn't going to be any show going on and just had a few/several drinks to keep myself warm and prolonging heading home.
It was while I was standing there along the railing, listening to the music that I saw this girl wandering around by herself. She sort of hovered from one group of people to the next so I figured she was flying solo, too. What struck me most was that hiding under her beanie was this straight, long, fine blonde hair. If you've ever heard the term, cornsilk hair, that's EXACTLY what it looked like to me. Captivating to watch, I've got to be honest. Anyway, she's still wandering around and I sort of forgot about her when she suddenly appeared by my side. She complimented me on something and it felt rather random. But it also broke the ice. I guess that's what she was doing in just trying to find someone to hang out with that night. I returned the compliment, a genuine compliment about her hair. And we just spent the next couple of hours talking.
She was living up in Twentynine Palms at the time. Which, if you know anything about the area, it's a military town. Based on that, either she's a military brat or she was/is involved with a Marine. DING DING DING! She WAS involved with a Marine but they were on the outs and she decided she was going to come to Disneyland (she was a passholder) without him on Christmas Day. He was with his family. Again, clearly on the outs. She was staying at one of the nearby motels and at the end of the night, I offered to drive her to her place rather than walk the mile and a half from the park. She accepted and we get to outside her room, she asks me to stay for just a second while she runs to the door and brings out her pup. A little French Boxer named, Trouble.
We made plans to meet up again at the parks for the next couple of nights while she was in town and stayed in touch even after she headed home. I'd meet up with her again in the spring when she came back out with another friend of hers and so on it went for the remainder of the year, seeing one another every few months until she mentioned about a big life change. Things with her and the Marine were long over and she couldn't stay in Twentynine Palms any longer, she was moving to Vegas. We kept in touch for a while and then she was moving again, this time up towards the Reno area. Communication slowed to only a few times a month at most. I actually stayed in touch with her friend, Deanna, the one I met in the sping, more consistently.over this period of time. Then Liz told me she was driving down to Newport with a friend who had a sick family member they needed to visit. They were coming down in an RV but she'd let me know when she'd be free to meet up. She never contacted me while she was down and pretty much stopped replying to any messages by the time she got back up to Reno. And so it was to become another friendship that fizzled out.
Until about two weeks ago.
Out of the blue, I get an Instagram follow from Trouble. Yeah, her dog. And I'm gonna be honest, it took me a while to even realize who this dog was because I hadn't seen nor thought of him in at least 6 years. I messaged back and while I awaited her response, I start going through the dog's Instagram and then find Liz's. Well, this girl has had quite an adventurous few months.
According to her social media posts (and gofundme page), Liz has:
Broken up with the guy she was living with because he was making death threats
She moved into a rental with a group of people after having lived in her car for a few weeks
While living in the rental, her ex stole her car, it was found 10 days later abandoned, window smashed
She went to confront him about it and somehow ended up getting arrested herself and spending 54 days in county
While she was in county, her roommates took all her possessions, even her chonies, and kicked her out because she hadn't paid her share of the rent in 2 months
Which is right around the time she somehow came across my profile again and Trouble started following me. That last sentence is almost prophetic if I were gullible.
So after I reach out to her to find out how she's been, she wanted a reminder as to where I lived because she wanted to get out of northern Nevada and thought she'd come back California.
Uh-huh... go on...
A friend of hers offered to drive and they were going to hit the road on Wednesday or Thursday of last week.
O.k., hit me up when you get here, we'll meet up.
A few days go by and I haven't heard back from her. I mean, Reno to Orange County, even at a snail's pace is only a couple of days, tops. So I hit her up, hey, did you gets get on the road yet? What's going on?
She messages me and point blank asks me for $120. Seems her friend's RV ran out of propane and they're close to freezing. She even sent me a pic of Trouble's bowl of water frozen over.
Weird that a ride to Orange County that should have taken no more than a couple of days has turned into some camping trip? And the money was going to be used to rent a room to stay in and stay warm.
Uh-huh... Look, I know I was born at night but I wasn't fucking born last night.
Girl, you've been out of my life for at least 6-7 years, we weren't ever a thing or even all that close, and now you're asking me for a handout? Nah... Find another sucker to leech off of. After all, you know how easy it is to look up your name and Abby arrest records in Nevada? Funny there aren't any returns this year where you were locked up for nearly 2 months. Try your sob story with someone more gullible.
Tuesday, October 18, 2022
Close But No Cigar
Monday, September 12, 2022
Representation Matters
This is going to be a topic I've never really spoken out about even though it has been a major factor in my life. Growing up in white bread Orange County in the 70s and early 80s, most everyone around me was Caucasian or Mexican/Latino/Hispanic. I can remember one Hawaiian kid and there was a Filipino family who lived down the street from us but in my mind, they were practically Mexican. I mean, they had the same color skin. That's literally just the way it was and the naïve way I thought at the time.. The vast majority of my friends were white because that's pretty much all I had around me except for the handful of other Mexican kids. It's something I never thought of because at the time, I was truly color-blind. Race wasn't something a kindergartener through 5th grader ever thought of... At least, I didn't. This despite one event that happened, I believe it was my 1st grade year and I was running late to class. A small group of probably 3rd or 4th grade kids were blocking the hallway entering the school and as I'm trying to get past them, they start taunting me, calling me a 'Dirty Mexican.' At the time, the only thing I was thinking was, 'I'm not dirty, I shower every day.' I genuinely didn't understand what they meant by it at the time.
It was when I was moved into a GATE Program... Let me back up a bit, at the time GATE didn't exist, it was called MGM. And holy shit, if I didn't get asked by just about everyone I knew about how we were making movies. Neighbor even asked me if I knew when the next Star Wars was going to come out. Anyway, it was in these classes, that I had to get bussed to a whole new school to attend classes at, and I started meeting kids of other nationalities and races. Hey, you're Japanese? How cool! How do you say this in Japanese? I got that all the time about Spanish, so it was funny to me that I could ask someone else something I didn't know. But again, it didn't really matter to me at the time who was what. We were all classmates, most of us friends, there were some kids in the classes that irritated me to no end but I imagine it was like that everywhere else.
But as I said, growing up in predominately white Orange County, I literally didn't meet a Black kid until 5th grade. Richard, his name was. He lived in the same neighborhood as a few of my other classmates so we'd either walk to school and home as a group or one of our parents would drive us there and back. Sometimes we'd take the school bus and listen to the Mighty 690 on those rides. Oddly enough, and I don't recall what it was that even caused some friction with Richard but one day, he decided he was going to call me out and fight after school. I literally cannot, for the life of me, remember what it was that set him off other than, he suddenly got a chip on his shoulder one day and told me he was going to wait for me by the fence on the way out of the schoolyard. Mind you, in the 5th grade I was the biggest kid in class. I don't mean fattest/heaviest set, although I was that, too. But also the tallest. My final year in elementary, it was a daily thing to see who was the biggest between me and Wes. Seriously. But in 5th grade, it was me all the way. And that could have been Richard's issue at the time. Trying to "prove" himself by taking on the biggest kid in class. But, being the biggest also meant I know what I could have done to him if I had allowed any fight to occur. I would have mopped the floor with him and then be the one in trouble because 'I should have known better.' Not worth it, so I took the bus home that day.
I don't think Richard even finished out the school year with us, so part of me wonders what ever happened to him. If the family moved away or he was having other issues at the time that maybe his parents thought they needed to reign him in. I'll never know. But this story is starting to drift from my original topic.
It's in this backdrop of suburbia that I grew up color-blind and just accepted everything that was around me at face value. And in 1977, like most other kids across America and the world at the time, we witnessed the spectacular that was, Star Wars! The story of a boy, a girl and a universe. Now, with a tagline like that, you cannot possibly tell me that Lucas always intended for Luke and Leia to be brother and sister. But that didn't matter at the time. I was enamored with the entirety of it. Spaceships, aliens, laser swords, masked villains dressed in black with an asthma problem. It never crossed my mind just how lily white the entire cast was. And then to find out years later that the voice of the bad guy, Darth Vader, was really the voice of a black man? Pretty much the only character of color within the Star Wars universe. At least until the guy from the Colt 45 commercials was in The Empire Strikes Back. And he was a bad guy too, until he wasn't.
But it was in these films, and as much as I love Star Wars, it was coming to grips with what I started to realize once I was getting older, into my high school years. In the story of a far off distant universe, there didn't seem to be a lot of people of color. And hardly anyone that looked like me. A fantastic universe filled with giant talking slugs, little green elves with magic powers, even people that looked like fish. But hardly any brown people... In fact, in the original trilogy, I can't think of a single brown person once you get past Billy Dee Williams. How... disappointing. Where were the heroes that looked like me?
And that's been a constant criticism of Hollywood. By and large, when you DO see a person of color, they're often the maid or the gardener or the street thug that gets beat up by the middle aged white guy when confronted.
It's only been in recent years we're finally starting to see representation in popular culture. Positive representation matters. While there have been plenty of minority lead features, we might only have seen one Latino character in TV and films and they've usually been played by Hector Elizondo, Miguel Ferrer or Edward James Olmos. Going further back, it was always Ricardo Montelban or Anthony Quinn. Bear in mind, for the purposes of this post, I'm going to use Latino/Latina for simplicity. I don't want to get into the whole discussion over Latinx/Hispanic/Chicano/etc. Roles were few and far between and always fell into the laps of these fine actors. Believe me, I hold nothing against them, they're all very talented artists. But rather, the studio system only seems to allow for one or two minority actors to take on all those roles. See also; John Leguizamo, Salma Hayek, Danny Trejo, Benjamin Bratt. Why couldn't these actors play more mainstream roles that weren't associated to a nationality or stereotype?
Thankfully, that finally started to change just before the millennium. And the first one I really got excited about was in the Star Wars universe when Jimmy Smits was cast as Bail Organa. HOLY SHIT!!! I can't even describe how excited I was for that. One of the founders of the Rebellion, the adoptive father of Princess Leia and he's Puerto Rican! FUCK YEAH!!! The part itself stayed relatively minor but it was still a notice that a change was underway. And it was in the sequel trilogy we got another big part go to a Latino actor. Resistance X-Wing pilot, Poe Dameron was to be played by Oscar Isaac, whose mother is Guatemalan and father is Cuban. Oh, you didn't know he was one of us? I guess if you knew his full name was actually Óscar Isaac Hernández Estrada, you might have figured it out sooner. Which makes the whole 'fan outrage' over Kelly Marie Tran and John Boyega so confusing. Obviously, that toxic 'fanbase' were upset to see minorities in Star Wars. "A Black Stormtrooper?! How DARE they!" But they let Oscar Isaac slide. I don't get it either.
Later, Rogue One introduced us to Cassian Andor, played by Mexican actor Diego Luna and he's reprising his role in the Disney+ series named after his character. Then the Mandalorian himself, Pedro Pascal, is Chilean. And I honestly couldn't be happier. Our people, nuestra gente, are finally seeing a foothold in the Galaxy Far, Far Away and I'm here for it. Literally, I am alive to see it happen!
Now if we can make some more inroads into the comic book universe. There haven't been many Latino superheroes in comics as a whole. So the few parts that end up with Latino actors are few and far between. John Leguizamo in the 90s Spawn film as Violator/Clown. Jessica Alba, who is a few generations removed from her ancestral roots, she has to go back to her great-grandparents for any ties to Mexico. And I thought her recent diatribe regarding how Hollywood needs to do better in casting minorities in the comic book genre seemed a little tone deaf. Considering how much the industry has improved from the days when she threw on a blonde wig and blue contacts to portray Sue Storm in the awful Fantastic Four movies.
Tuesday, August 30, 2022
Happiest Place on Earth
Growing up in the shadow of Disneyland, almost literally... No, really. We grew up in Stanton, a straight shot down Katella from The Magic Kingdom. Summer nights we would walk to the corner towards the park and have a fairly clear view of Disneyland's nightly fireworks in the distance. Only dreaming of being in the parks and just having to look straight up to see the bright and blinding lights overhead. Sometimes when dad was feeling especially generous, and our relatives from Texas happened to be in town, he'd load up everyone in the van, my uncle's station wagon, and we'd head to the Disneyland hotel to watch the Dancing Waters show. It's funny, when the World of Color show finally premiered at Disney's California Adventure, it immediately brought back memories of the old Dancing Waters show at the hotel. Literally just fountains of water with lights of color projected through them and choreographed to music. The waterfall footpaths we'd wander around. And for a few of the braver kids, we'd load up into the glass elevator on the outside of the hotel tower and ride it up to the top floor restaurant/lounge. The brief, seconds-long ride would give us the best views of the park. Even just a glimpse of the mountains,, The Matterhorn, Space Mountain and the newly opened Big Thunder Mountain. Splash Mountain wouldn't open for another 20 years. Once we'd reach the top floor and the doors opened, the host would smile kindly, let us know we needed reservations and send us back down.
Sometimes, just sometimes, we might get treated to a ride on the monorail. Back then, you didn't need park admission to ride it, but you also weren't allowed to disembark at the Tomorrowland station. You're in the bubble leading or trailing vehicle and just got the greatest tease ever. A ride THROUGH Disneyland. So close, and yet, so far...
As I've said, Disneyland was just a special treat for us. I keep thinking back to how much, or rather, how little money dad made. Even for the 1970s and early 80s, he didn't bring home all that much. But he still did his best to keep us as close to having a 'normal' life as kids as he could provide. This included visits to Disneyland, maybe once a year for our birthdays. And believe me, we always looked forward to those trips. Even as I was getting old enough, and maybe needed a bike to ride to and from school... By this time, I was already getting bussed to Patton elementary for my GATE classes. And Dad wanted me to have my own bike, maybe for exercise, maybe he wanted me to get out and about more often. This one particular year, he even strongly suggested that for my birthday, he would buy me a new bmx bike. Probably a Huffy or a Kent. I declined. I wanted that Disneyland trip once again. Spending a day at the park with my little brother and sister was more important for me than a bike that I was only going to get to use. Years later, I was reminded of that bike when I found out my nephew, Jordan, wanted to go to Disneyland for his birthday and he saved up enough money not only for his own admission but he saved up enough to pay for his older brother, Christian, to join him.
I can vaguely remember some of my earliest trips. Just flashes of moments in the recesses of my mind. But I can recall riding the People Mover and the Tron tunnel part of the ride. Felt like we were in the movie for those few moments. I remember the Sky-way and riding through the Matterhorn. The old Adventure Through Inner Space where Star Tours sits now. I remember the Motor Boat Cruise ride and how Autopia had two completely different ride entrances. One in Tomorrowland, which still exists and the old Fantasyland side of the ride. Mission to Mars before being gutted and turned into a lousy pizza restaurant.
I remember riding Star Tours the summer it opened, 1987. I had just turned 15, with me were a couple cousins and my brother. The wait time was something like 3 hours. No fast passes, no lightning lanes, nothing but the wait. And after about an hour, Carlos started to get fussy. What 12-year-old is going to want to continue to stand and wait. Before long, he was ready to bail and I refused. We'd already waited 90 minutes, we're halfway through. Then he started to cry and I was about ready to give him something to cry about. It was a battle but he wasn't going to win. lol eventually, after we finally got through the ride an hour and a half later, we were all smiles and I asked him after all that, "Was it worth it?!" He embarrassedly dipped his head, and with a smile, "yeah..."
23 years later on a trip to the park with my sister, her family and our parents, mom and dad finally got to experience Star Tours for themselves. The wait time was nowhere near 3 hours by then but mom and dad loved the ride just the same. They were practically giddy coming off it.
Many of my favorite moments in life happened in those parks. Riding Monster's Inc. with my nieces and hugging my niece and declaring, "Oh, you're my little Boo!" coming right off the ride, her hugging my arm right back and saying, "and you're my Kitty!" Every time I hear the opening strains of the Main Street Electrical Parade, the corners of my mouth start to turn up until it's silly grin covering my face. The first real roller coaster I ever rode without dad sitting next to me was Space Mountain. I was maybe 11. In line was me, Dad, my little brother and our aunt, Lucy. Lucy was 15, Carlos was 8 and I asked Dad if I could ride with Carlos. Dad was a little taken aback that I asked and also a little proud that I wanted to go on without him. He made sure to tell mom once we met back up with them.
I remember the changeover from the ride ticket coupon books to 'unlimited' passes. Mom had countless ticket books at home filled with A, B and a few C unused tickets still attached. D and E tickets were always the ones used up first. I mean, who wanted to spend an A ticket to ride the firetruck up Main Street? The early days of the unlimited passes, Disney asked you wear the pass, attached by a safety pin usually. This is so that the ride attendants wouldn't bother to ask for your ticket before boarding.
How many people have come and gone through my life and Disney happened to be a central part of the story. The countless people I met and departed in the moments I was in the park, a thousand little interactions, mostly good. The family from Seattle who were boarding the train at Tomorrowland station and suddenly needed to exit so their son could use the restroom. I stopped them and let them know that if they rode through to New Orleans Square, their intended destination, they could exit there and immediately to the right is a restroom. Yes, I knew the parks layouts so well. I could direct you to the nearest restroom regardless of where in the parks you happened to be at any given moment.
Or the people who were around a little longer, some good, some bad. Ex's and potential ex's, future ex's lol... You get the idea. I always said Disneyland was actually a GREAT first date idea because you get to see your intended at their best and potentially at their worst, all within the span of a day. How much can they allow themselves to enjoy being in the moment? Will the music or a churro make them smile? How will they deal with the high stress situation of being surrounded by thousands of people, screaming kids, random strangers bumping into you while you've been on your feet all day. It's the ultimate stress test.
One particularly bad first date, this girl had been hyping herself up as being the better Astro-blaster shooter than I was. I never told her that my best score was over 2 million, I just let her jabber away. Mind you, even before this, she was practically planning on us being together for a while, Disneyland was just going to be our First date of many to come. Eh, we'll see. By the time we met up, something changed in her attitude and after I handily beat her at Astro-Blasters, her attitude went from bad to worse until she finally stopped in front of the Golden Horseshoe, she turned, said to me, "You know, this isn't going to work out." I just said, "Oh, thank God." turned and walked away.
Conversely, meeting a girl waiting in line on opening day for Guardians of the Galaxy. We spent the entire 90 minutes talking and after the ride, she went to her shift at some restaurant in Hermosa Beach and I never saw her again.
Oh, I've also made some great friends along the way. A few have even managed to remain friends to this day. Not a whole lot but quality over quantity matters the most. Riding Tower of Terror multiple times in the final weeks before they shut it down for the Guardians overlay. Opening Day of Avengers Campus and the hours long lines to get into the area after already riding the Spiderman ride first thing that morning. Paint the Night, When can we do this again? Even going to the parks with my friends and family and their own kids... Nieces and nephews...
And after nearly 20 years as an annual passholder, it finally reached their breaking point for me. Cost-wise, the restrictions on the use (reservations), and uncertainty in my own life, I just couldn't continue.
But this isn't goodbye. It's been too ingrained in my life, in the story of Louie. Hell, the story of how I was labeled King Louie is also a Disney story, This isn't goodbye. But it is so long for now.
See you real soon...
Adventures in Online Dating: North State Ghosts
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