Thursday, April 8, 2021

Adventures in Online Dating: The Return

Originally published March 19, 2012

Alright ladies and gents, since it’s been so long since I’ve given a report I figured, let’s make it a two-fer Monday!  Well, not so much because I feel so giving but because I had two separate dates in the past week and neither of them went on to become a second date.  Which is odd because one of them really went rather well.  But, let’s get the first one out of the way, shall we?

 Our first contestant is a nurse from the city of Santana, about to become a nurse practitioner.  Divorced and no kids and in the interest of full disclosure, we had already met once before.  The nurse and I met up for brunch a couple of years ago shortly after I first moved out here.  Via online dating, of course.  How else am I going to meet a nurse from Santana?  Anyway, we met for brunch two years ago and while it was pleasant, it wasn’t exactly something off the charts.  We got along ok but that spark that you try to look for, the genuine interest between us wasn’t there and neither of us were definitely going to try to fake that.  So even though we made tentative plans to see each other again for dinner less than a week later, I wasn’t terribly surprised or upset that she canceled out on me just a few days later.  I can’t remember her excuse but since she didn’t bother offering a make-up, I figured I already knew where it was headed, or in this case, wasn’t headed.  I didn’t call her again and didn’t hear from her either so that was that.

 Over the next couple years when I would venture back into the online dating pool, I’d see her profile come and go over time and didn’t think anything of it other than, good luck to her.  But it wasn’t until my most recent foray that I finally figured, what the hell, let me at least say Hi and see how she’s doing.

 We got to talking, not really about us since we seemed to be in about the some positions we were in life from two years ago.  But just talking in general and finally I thought to ask her to dinner anyway, to which she agreed.  We ended up spending the next five hours together walking along main street after dinner, then a couple drinks and made plans to see one another the next night.  I know, I was surprised too!  Then déjà vu kicked in…

 As I was just getting home from work and relaxing before getting ready for our date, her text messages came in.  “Sorry I have to bail on tonight…  Something came up…  Last minute…  Help my mom with paperwork…  My dog ran away with the circus…”  It didn’t really matter what she said at that point, I already knew.  And I wasn’t surprised or upset about it.  Like the question I posted last week after it happened, she didn’t offer a make-up date and despite us talking and texting daily before then, I’ve heard from her only once since Wednesday.  And that was just to wish me a Happy St. Patty’s Day.

 To be continued immediately…

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