May 5, 2020
In another moment that could only really happen to me...
First, the backstory.
About 14 or 15 years ago, I met this girl on Match.com. We get to talking, seeing one another and things develop fairly well. She even meets my family for Easter Sunday and I'm spending the night at her place, once for almost a week. She lived in Rancho when I was in Riverside so it wasn't a bad drive home to get to work the next morning. It became routine. We had a dedicated dinner and movie night before long.
But it was after that Easter Sunday when she pretty much just dropped me cold. Ghosted, call it what you will, I didn't get any reason for the cutoff, it just was what it was... 🤷🏼♂️
A few years later, I've moved out to HB, met a new group of friends and I'm not even sure how but this girl wanders back into my life I introduce her to all my new friends and we pretty much picked up where we left off a few years before. Only now I'm living in HB and she's in Montclair. Those Monday morning drives home were killer, only for me to have to head into the office after I cleaned up at home.
Anyway, we do the whole FWB thing for a couple of years and then like a switch flips and she wants nothing to do with me again, she's hooking up and eventually moved in with the friend of a friend. That only lasted a few months before he kicked her out and after that, I heard that she moved back to the east coast. Ok, whatever.
Then almost 2 years ago she pops up on Facebook as "Someone you might know". I reach out, what the hell she's back on the east coast anyway, right? Living with her fiancé. Good for her, finding someone. Anyway, we talk off and on for almost a year. And then late summer she breaks up with the dude and kicks him out. Pretty drastic but you gotta do what you gotta do.
Eventually our conversations turn to that and how disappointed she was in the guy, blah, blah, blah but how she'd love to come back to California. At least to visit, maybe even move back if the conditions were right. Cool, well if you make it out here, hit me up, we'll hang out.
Over the holiday break we're talking, texting a lot more, she's opening up about a lot of other stuff and we sort of both agreed that if/when she came out, she could crash at my place. And conversations went into greater depth from there. I'm starting to think she might want to rekindle what we had before. And we even set a vague April window for her trip. This was back in late January.
Right around Valentine's Day as we're talking about her visit, she casually mentions other people she wants to visit. Ok, cool. And then she drops the bomb. She's been talking to this one guy since November. And it was a dude from her past. She mentioned his name... It was the guy she dropped me for to start seeing way back when. She's all about how he's "the one that got away." And she plans on seeing him during her trip, try to get that romance started back up again...
Well, at least she admitted to it. She was planning on just using my place as a "base of operations" but she fully planned on spending a lot of time at the other dude's place.
Yeah, no... I've been through this song and dance before. I'm not going through that again. Skip.
She didn't like that.
She pretty much stopped talking to me once I told her she could stay with him if that's who she wanted to be with. She didn't like that either.
Anyway, the reason I even bring it all up is because she unfriended me over the weekend. Well, not just unfriended but full on blocked me.
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