B's and J's

I met Jay back during my Match dot com days. Probably around 07-08. I was still living at Chaucer. Just HOW Jay and I started communicating was unusual in that, she made the first move. You see, my Match filter was set to 10 years younger and older.  Which meant she was in her early 20s at the time, I don't recall exactly but 23 sounds about right.  Being that I was still in my mid-30s, I didn't think much about it when she slid into my DMs and we actually started talking about baseball before anything else. She was an Angels fan as I was, so that became the topic of our conversations to start. Although once I saw her age, I kind of wrote her off as anything more then a friend who liked baseball and we made plans to catch a game. Meet at the stadium since she was living in HB at the time. 

We get to the game, introduce ourselves lol and just enjoy the game and chatting about things when somehow she steered the conversation to oral sex. Huh?  Ok, I guess we're going there. She eventually got to a point where she declared that she gave the best BJs. I had to stop her there when I started laughing. I had to let her know that pretty much every girl thinks they give the best blowjobs. 

"But every guy I've ever given head to told me I was the best!" 

Girl, you think ANY guy is going to tell you to your face that you suck at sucking?  In that moment, every guy will tell a girl the exact same thing if he thinks there's a chance he might get it again. Oh, she was not happy after that. But at the same time, I'm pretty sure I know why she took the conversation that direction. And for the next several months, whenever we'd meet up for a game, she would eventually start talking about sex again, even hinting that she was a cam girl on the side. Jay, that's actually NOT going to get me to want to hook up with you any more or any less. She was never any sort of romantic or even purely physical interest for me. I wasn't about to hit it just to get myself off. Even if she seemed up be an eager participant. 

We still stayed friends and after I moved up HB a year or two later, she really amped up her efforts. Inviting herself to my complex's pool on more than a few occasions and trying to get my attention back at my place while we were cleaning up. 

In my mind, we were just friends because we'd still roast each other, goofing around but it wasn't until we got into a game of keep away over her phone and it suddenly turned into a wrestling/tickling match that really escalated and before we knew it, we were on top of one another panting heavily, my hands just inches from some very dangerous ground. We paused, staring into each other's eyes for, it must have only been a few seconds but felt like minutes, and I slowly, carefully pulled my hands back, unstraddling her as I did. 

We didn't say much after that as I gave her her phone back. After a few minutes to catch her breath, she left for home. 

We didn't hang out as much after that. At least, she didn't come over to my place anymore. She actually ended up moving even closer to my place and invited me to stop by for a visit, often. I never made it over there even though her place was RIGHT BY my office. Literally, I drove past her complex every day on my way to and from work. And despite all that, the breaking point for her, her final straw was when I posted a Facebook group invite to a Spazmatics show at The Shore/Sachi, whatever it was called at the time. It wasn't directed at her but she decided to blow up about it on that Facebook post. Complaining that I never invite her. She wanted a direct invite from me, not a group obituaries. And that even if she went, she would feel unwelcome, as if I didn't want her there. I'd like to remind everyone we never dated, we never hooked up, not even kissed, I can't even remember many hugs hello or goodbye. Maybe that's why she thought I didn't want her there, because I am a hugger. 

We pretty much stopped talking not long after that. Incidental contact mostly since then. She married the guy she started dating while living in that place near my office. They've got 2 kids. Good for her. As long as she's found someone to love her back.